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This might seem like a no-brainer, but sometimes your mind can play trick on you when you really want to see this guy again. Women often give too much time, effort and …., way too soon.


When Girl Meets 30

With texting being the new way to “court” someone, it can be hard to adjust. If you just made the plans, or initiated the last call, then you should let him pull some weight and make the call. Call him, or text like they all do. When my husband and I first started hanging out, I was going out of town and he told me to call him when I got back, but we had never called each other yet. And even if he doesn’t, you have lost all the power. Many of my girlfriends agonize over if they should call, should they wait, etc etc.

These are great tips. You can be flirty and send him funny e-mails, or texts, but there is a fine line. If you have already been on four dates, you know by now you enjoy each other’s company and that he is willing to make time in his schedule for you.

I think all great advice for us over thirty’s…. If a person is interested, they will show they are interested.


Erin Kennedy is the editor of My Thirty Spot, a lifestyle blog for sharing tips and stories for women in their 30s to live the best 30 lives we can. We did a lot of research on this, and this is what seems to be the way to handle dating in the new age of technology.

Do NOT call him if he didn’t give you his number. I find too much lately that too many text only relationships are occurring, and the result is much textual frustration.

If I gave a guy my number, I would be disappointed if he sent a text first. We wanted to just touch on some of the issues that you may have do deal with, or question your own judgement if you really like the guy. Especially for us Thirty girls. When to call him, or text him? The feeling of a pit in your stomach. But at this time, you should know each others schedule, sense of humor and the way he runs his life. At this point, you should have the confidence that he likes you and you should run with it. So I could imagine guys would feel the same way if they gave you their number.

This is good advice, because as simple as it seems, it’s not so simple! If he doesn’t call, then you know it is time to let it go.

When you are dating him or starting to see each other, means you have been hanging out at least once a week for about 4 – 6 weeks. It can be so stressful. Besides at this point, it tells you how he feels. This is not a time to be coy. But he really did want me to call him. I say, don’t give more to him than he’s giving to you. Don’t worry too much about the whole taking turns thing anymore. I would take it as a sign that he’s a little wimp! If you make the plans again, you will never know if he is into seeing you. It can be mixed messaged about calling him first or making the first move, but if he told you to call, he really wants you to call. Those first few dates of wonder can be such a fun time, and he loves a chase.

DO call him if he gave you his number, card or flirtatiously put his number in your phone without you knowing, or any other way he gave you his digits. Or are they hiding behind the big green curtain, and not have to deal with the dreaded fear of rejection.

With social media use being at it’s highest ever, there is no reason you can’t get a hold of someone at a moments notice, from Facebook to Twitter, e-mail and of course the phone. You don’t want to send him a lengthy text that should be said in person. You also don’t want him talking to his friends about your excessive texting and wonder how many texts he will get while he is hanging out with his friends for happy hour.

Do call him if some concert or fun event comes up that you think he would enjoy. Especially with all of the Smartphones and Iphones and all of the creative Apps.

So what about us? He will know that you want him, and then he may lose interest. Read More >

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I’ve recently written about this and I do believe that text has it’s time and place and can be a handy little flirtatious tool. I was very hesitant in making the first move, so I text him to see if he would work for me, and say “hi.” He wasn’t that impressed, but I didn’t know how to handle it. The ball is in your court.

After the First Date

Wait your turn. There are ways to get his number, Facebook, LinkedIn or calling his work, but then you run the risk of the guy thinking that you are a stalker. I think texting has stolen those special moments of being on the phone all night trying to get to know each other, laughing and going to work on 2 hours sleep. We can still remember what dating was before cell phones, and actually having to get a real phone call to get asked out on a date, or just to talk through all hours of the night. It can take years to really know each other, this is an important step to the relationship and you still don’t want to push it too far. There seems to be so many different tips and advice on the subject. Is it laziness that causes men to only text nowadays?

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