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Not dating my best friend


The same will happen when you're best friends with your SO, where you'll find yourselves drinking wine on a foreign stoop, dancing 'til the sun comes up, getting caught in the rain and instead of rushing for cover, jumping in puddles, meeting strange people on the way and generally having a wild time together and discovering new things, because that's what best friends do.

When you're best friends with your SO, you don't have to go spend time with your partner. В

Some days you have a flatulent time, and the next day you have a sexy time. We've all done it. Like doing all the things BFFs do and then also getting to have sex at the end of the day. So while you'll still have your childhood BFF, your college BFF and your work BFF, having your boyfriend or girlfriend BFF is the cherry on top of your BFF cake.

There are good things, obviously, about dating your best friend, and also a few troublesome things — but if you ask me, the good outweighs the bad. And it doesn't mean that person is your only best friend. Not just any dream, THE DREAM. Why go to a party and have to be introduced into dozens of conversations with people who are boring, that you'll probably never see again, when you can just stay at home with your lover/best friend? Dating your best friend just makes being in a relationship that much more delicious. But I say whatever. As Dr. When you're with your best friend, you don't gossip about them to your other friends. The worst thing is the stabs of pain in the quiet moments when you think about what would happen if you broke up.

9 Things That Happen When You're Dating Your Best Friend

Dating your best friend is the best. While I wouldn't suggest dating someone you're already best friends with (in my experience you're better off maintaining the friendship), you should aim to be best friends with the person you date, especially if you're in a long term or seriousВ relationship. Well when your SO is your best friend, you always have someone to do nothing with, and it's just as fun as a night on the town.

But then when you do get out of the house everything is an adventure. You can say anything, act how you feel, wear your sweats or your party dress and everything is just marvelous. Here are some of the things that, for better or for worse, happen when you're dating your best friend:

The best thing about dating your best friend is the comfort level. There's something really wonderful about "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" time actually just being best buds time.

The only problem is that sometimes it can be easy not to socialize. You think of them differently. Check out our new podcast,В I Want It That Way, which delves into the difficult and downright dirty parts of a relationship, and find more onВ our Soundcloud page. When everything you need (sex AND friendship) is all in one place, it can be easy to forget about the rest of the world.

There's no pretensions with your best friend, and you're free to be your best, and worst, self.

You know when sometimes you're in a relationship with someone and they're your "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" and you see them and then you go see your friends and you talk about them to your friends like they're the person you're currently dating, not like they're actually part of you? Mindy Lahiri has taught us, best friend is a tier, not a person. Being comfortable around the person you're dating is a real weight off your shoulders, especially when so much of the start of a relationship is spent trying to impress.

But then of course you'll lie on the couch together picking zits and farting, and maybe sometimes that kills the romance a bit. You'd be losing your best friend too, which is a far more terrifying thing.

Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage? You get to go spend time with your bestie. It's all part of being best friends with your SO.

You know when all your friends want to get boozey but you just want to sit around in silence eating pizza in your underpants? You wouldn't just be losing your boyfriend or girlfriend. It's The Dream. Think about how a night with your high school bestie goes — is the answer anywhere and everywhere? They become a part of who you are, like any other good friend, and you merge them with your friends and life in a way you don't with someone you're just dating.

The best part of dating with your best friend is that you're with your best friend and you have the best relationship you could have ever dreamed of. Don't pretend like you never wished you could transplant the brain and personality of your best friend into the person you're sleeping with.

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